I think the stigma associated with being labeled bisexual and/or gay has changed and continues to evolve. Especially with today's young people who don't seem as worried about being labeled about who they sleep with or how they identify sexually.
You are always going to have absolutes. Some people are just wired that way. And that's Okay! Maybe it's generational; the fear of being judged. Or afraid to be perceived to be lesser of a man if they admit they are anything other than 100% straight. I don't know. Because I am not them.
I am though, an absolute. I know I'm 100% gay. I've had folks here tell me that nope, I'm not. That everyone is sexually fluid. Nope; I'm not. And I bristle at that because they don't know me. I do. That's doesn't mean I can't admire a woman. Her physique. Her beauty. Her aura. Her whatever. But it doesn't translate to me wanting to sleep with women.
That could be what a lot of guys here who identify as straight or Str8 feel. They can admire a good looking guy. Or a great physique. Or a guy's ass. Or his peen. His whatever. But, that doesn't necessarily translate to wanting to act on it. But so what if they do?
Several guys here have related their having such an experience and that it reinforced what they knew--nope, man-on-man sex is not for them. The fact that they experimented, IMO, does not make them *less straight*. In fact, I'd say it makes them ever *more straight* because they've had the experience and won't keep wondering what if.
Some of the most poignant posts I've read here, IMO, are from those guys who haven't done anything with a man but it's always in the back of their minds, *wondering around*. I can almost *feel* their struggle. Their wistfulness. Their sadness. Their blunted desires. I can only empathize with how they must feel, because again, I am not them.
But as heated as these discussions can get, I think they serve a good purpose for some readers in that they show that they are not alone with such thoughts; there are folks out there just like them. Whichever point on the sexuality spectrum they may be.
And if discussions like this help folks think and maybe expand their horizons, then that's a good thing. As I continue to mature, I find myself learning (at least striving!) each day to be less judgmental. Especially about that which I don't know. And I'm not a *straight* or a *str8* man. So how can I judge that which I don't know?
And that's the beauty of some of these discussion fora here at LPSG. Freedom to express who you are, share your opinion, and discuss/debate varying and differing opinions. I just wish it could be done with positivity. Without becoming argumentative and vitriolic. Because in the real world, does it really matter? No one is right and no one is wrong.
None of us really like being told by someone else we are wrong about our *whatever*. Especially when you don't know the person. And if you don't like being told you are *lying* or *in denial* about your sexuality, then don't you be the one telling someone else they are. Cuz that just hypocritical.
And I dislike a hypocrite much more than some guy who's chosen to express his sexuality a certain way, even if it doesn't necessarily fit with my idea about sexuality. Because simply put, I'm not them. And they are not me.
I salute the bravery of anyone who dares to share their deepest and most honest thoughts. Because for some it's the first time they've let themselves do just that. Be honest with themselves in a *public* way. LPSG may have started as a joke, but today for a lot of folks it is no joke. It's a place to share their deepest thoughts. And feel safe enough here to do just that.
